October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month, a time when pink ribbons remind us to stand together, spread knowledge and honor the courage of those affected by this disease. For me, this month carries deep personal meaning. My story is not just about a diagnosis; it is also about resilience, community and discovering hope in unexpected places.
My Diagnosis and the Unexpected Turn
On Feb. 2, 2024, I was diagnosed with stage 4 metastatic breast cancer. Like so many others, I never thought I’d hear those words. Soon after my diagnosis, I learned that cancer had spread to my left hip, fracturing my femur. Following an invasive hip replacement to address bone cancer, I opted for a double mastectomy. I am BRCA2-positive, and I hoped the surgery would minimize recurrence. I then endured 30 grueling rounds of radiation.
The whirlwind of appointments, surgeries and treatments was overwhelming, and the reality of living with metastatic disease — that this would be a lifelong journey, not a one-time battle — was sobering. But even in the darkest moments, I began to realize something powerful: Cancer might shape my path, but it does not define who I am.
Lessons Learned Along the Way
Breast cancer changes you. It affects not only your body but also your mind, your relationships and your spirit. Over the past year, I’ve learned lessons I never expected…lessons I carry with me into every conversation I have about breast cancer:
- Early detection saves lives. I cannot stress enough the importance of regular mammograms. One doctor even told me I was the “poster child for mammograms” because I could not feel my lump. Self-exams and advocating for yourself if something “feels off” are vital. Too often, women put their health last. But your life is worth prioritizing.
- Support is everything. Cancer is not a journey anyone should face alone. From family members to friends, from medical teams to faith communities, the love and encouragement I received renewed my strength when I had none left.
- Your voice matters. I’ve learned to speak up — not only with my doctors but also in my wider community. Sharing my journey allows me to encourage others to be proactive about their health, to ask questions, to know they are not alone.
- Hope looks different every day. Some days, hope is simply getting out of bed; other days, it’s walking my dog, Gracie, without pain. And sometimes, hope is bigger: It’s standing in solidarity with others, raising awareness, and fighting for more research and better treatments.
Why Awareness Still Matters
We have made great strides in breast cancer treatment and survival rates, but this is the reality: Too many lives are still lost each year. Metastatic breast cancer does not yet have a cure. That’s why awareness is not just about pink ribbons; it’s also about education, funding research and advocating for those living with advanced disease.
When we talk openly about breast cancer, we help break down fear and stigma. We empower people to get screened, seek second opinions and take charge of their health.
Finding Purpose in the Pain
Although I would never have chosen this journey, it has shaped me in ways that surprise me. Cancer has taught me to see grace in the smallest victories; it has also taught me to notice the beauty of each day. Moreover, it has deepened my compassion for others walking through their own valleys — whether through illness, grief or struggle.
On Sept. 28, I participated in the Susan G. Komen More Than Pink Breast Cancer Walk. Walking alongside survivors, thrivers, caregivers and advocates, I was reminded that we are stronger together. Every step is a prayer for healing; every dollar raised is a push for progress; and every story shared is a light in the darkness.
My Invitation to You
If you take one thing away from my story, let it be this: Don’t wait to care for yourself. Schedule that mammogram. Talk to your doctor about your risks. Above all, believe this: No matter how hard the road is, you can find strength you never knew you had.
Breast Cancer Awareness Month is not just about statistics or campaigns. It’s about real people — mothers, daughters, sisters, friends — whose lives are forever changed. I am one of them. And although my journey with metastatic breast cancer continues, I walk forward with courage, faith and hope that, one day, together, we will see a world without this disease.
So, this October, when you see that pink ribbon, don’t just wear it. Live it. Share the message. Encourage the women (and men) in your life. Let it be a reminder that awareness is action — and action saves lives.
Because, in the end, breast cancer is not just my story. It’s all of ours. And, together, we can write a different ending.
Tammy Fuqua is developer partner and community manager, A&E, with QSC, as well as the former co-chair of the AVIXA Women’s Council.
